If Jesus were alive today, what would he be like, and perhaps more importantly would the average Christian even agree with him?
I'm thinking probably not.
This is how it goes: Mum's interested in BLW, but then she makes the mistake of telling someone. Her Paediatrician, Child Health Nurse, Mum, Day Care Centre or even Hubby, and she suddenly finds herself being told that it's a choking risk.
Now we could link the science, or talk about why the NHS has adopted BLW as their recommended approach. But if you look at things logically, you don't even really need to.
So Let's look at the "choking risks" logically
Here’s the thing about PND, we don’t really know what does cause it. But we do know what the risk factors are, lack of sleep is indeed one of them, as are stress and feelings of failure - so why are we advising mothers with PND or mothers already at risk of PND to engage in practices that will most likely increase their stress levels and interfere with their sleep even more?
Do you know the history of what is now called “sleep training” or “Cry it out?”
Because I do, and I’m going to let you in on a secret that all those “baby sleep experts”, doctors and child health nurses don’t want you to know.
It has absolutely no scientific basis.
There is no need for sleep training, there’s no proof that it is needed and there never was, because it was literally just made up.
Being an adult would be easy if life were black and white.
Because yes "adulting is hard" but it's not hard because you have to iron your own clothes or pay the bills.
It's hard because you have to try to find authenticity and truth in a world full of myth.
For that line of thinking to work, logically, any new location has to be stressful for baby. Regardless of caregiver presence or responsiveness. Now even if they (sleep consultants) insist that this only applies to sleep, they are still making the claim that babies will automatically have higher cortisol levels if they are in an unfamillar location.
Which means that they would have raised cortisol; when you go to vist family, go camping, go to the beach for a weekend, go on vacation, move house, move them rooms, move them from a bassinette to a cot, if they are out and about in their stroller, or carrier, if you start them in daycare, and so on.
In other words: you are stuck in your house for every sleep for the entire first year at least.
If there is one thing that having anxiety and depression can teach you, it is that our society is absolutely obsessed with putting all our faith in emotions. We literally let them run, and ruin our lives.
And our culture constantly lies about their importance and affect.
Lets face it, kids are expensive. But here's a little secret the marketing department at Fisher Price don't want you to know; most baby stuff is completly unnecessary. Even those things that are so imbedded into our collective subconcious that just the word baby make you think of them.
There are however a few parenting philosophies that can save you an awful lot of money, as well as being just generally awesome.
In our attempts to end victim shaming, we have ended up silencing and shooting down anyone who suggests that we could be teaching risk awareness to our girls.
It is going to take time to change our entire society.
It is going to take time, to raise a generation of men who do not see women's bodies as their personal playthings.
There are quite a lot of steps we need to take before we even get to the point where baby boys will not be born into a culture that views women as holes to fuck.
Until then we are fighting within the confines of our current existence. And those confines mean that we have to approach the issue from both sides.
1) teaching boys to question the paradigm
2) teaching girls risk prevention strategies
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