June 2020. America is currently teetering on the edge. It’s not hyperbole to suggest that it could disintegrate into civil war. It’s day 9 of mass protests, and the national guard, FBI and riot police are all out in force. The race riots of the 60’s look like a warm up compared to protests across all 50 states, as well as many countries overseas. Here in Australia many of us are reckoning with our own wake up calls to the ongoing police brutality and persecution of Indigenous Australians.
The sheer scale of the outcry to George Floyd’s murder at the hands of police has sparked awareness of the need to speak up in many places, both likely and unlikely. Over at The Beyond Sleep Training Project, they’re one of many parenting pages sharing content related to anti-racism, white privilege, and the need to speak up. Predictably there’s been a few comments from people claiming that sharing such content isn’t relevant to the page. (Newsflash, what’s relevant to any page is what the page creators feel is relevant.) But here’s the thing, TBSTP isn’t just any parenting page; it’s an anti-sleep-training page. Why is that relevant? Because Sleep Training is a tool for racism.
(Cue outrage and denial)
Still with me? Here’s 4 ways Sleep Training is racist.
The hardest thing about having a baby who needs human presence next to them in order to sleep, is coming to terms with the fact that you will never have that 2 hour chunk of time where you can just do housework or have a shower in peace.
I found my mood really started to improve when I stopped focusing on the things I couldn’t do (laundry, dinner prep, cleaning floors) or what I was missing (alone time) and started focusing on the things I could do, and what I gained by co-napping.
So here is a list of some of the great things you can do whilst co-napping, sorted into categories of Learning, Earning, Nurturing, Fun and Productive. (though many things will cross over depending on personal tastes.)
For that line of thinking to work, logically, any new location has to be stressful for baby. Regardless of caregiver presence or responsiveness. Now even if they (sleep consultants) insist that this only applies to sleep, they are still making the claim that babies will automatically have higher cortisol levels if they are in an unfamillar location.
Which means that they would have raised cortisol; when you go to vist family, go camping, go to the beach for a weekend, go on vacation, move house, move them rooms, move them from a bassinette to a cot, if they are out and about in their stroller, or carrier, if you start them in daycare, and so on.
In other words: you are stuck in your house for every sleep for the entire first year at least.
There are very few upsides to being a single parent with a partner who lives interstate.
But one of the few silver linings is that if you decide to bring a new partner into you life, you can choose someone who's parenting values match yours.
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