The hardest thing about having a baby who needs human presence next to them in order to sleep, is coming to terms with the fact that you will never have that 2 hour chunk of time where you can just do housework or have a shower in peace.
I found my mood really started to improve when I stopped focusing on the things I couldn’t do (laundry, dinner prep, cleaning floors) or what I was missing (alone time) and started focusing on the things I could do, and what I gained by co-napping.
So here is a list of some of the great things you can do whilst co-napping, sorted into categories of Learning, Earning, Nurturing, Fun and Productive. (though many things will cross over depending on personal tastes.)
For that line of thinking to work, logically, any new location has to be stressful for baby. Regardless of caregiver presence or responsiveness. Now even if they (sleep consultants) insist that this only applies to sleep, they are still making the claim that babies will automatically have higher cortisol levels if they are in an unfamillar location.
Which means that they would have raised cortisol; when you go to vist family, go camping, go to the beach for a weekend, go on vacation, move house, move them rooms, move them from a bassinette to a cot, if they are out and about in their stroller, or carrier, if you start them in daycare, and so on.
In other words: you are stuck in your house for every sleep for the entire first year at least.
There are very few upsides to being a single parent with a partner who lives interstate.
But one of the few silver linings is that if you decide to bring a new partner into you life, you can choose someone who's parenting values match yours.
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